[Nonpareil]

(06-02-2012 02:45 AM)nicolas Wrote:  

(06-02-2012 01:31 AM)torontokid Wrote:  

She's a single mom. No matter how amazing she is you still are inserting yourself into her and her kids life, something guys don't want to do.

Kids just create drama. Most guys don't want to play daddy to somebody else's kids.

I'm not necessarily disagreeing with you. I would avoid single moms and I'm betting its almost impossible to beat out her former guy in her mind. I'm mostly talking about the fact that she is getting trashed in this thread for not doing anything wrong. She's not used up and damaged goods because the father of her kids just happened to die. Wait until she does something wrong before trashing her. Not to mention she is called trailer trash and her kid was called a bastard child in this thread. So she is trailer trash because she had bad luck? Any kid whose father died is now a bastard child? There is a time for single mom shaming, this is not one of them.

I'm not saying she didn't get a shitty break, but I don't think any in here are shaming her directly; we're just baffled that this is yet another attempt by Hollywood to push an agenda; namely that a single mother is a desirable choice.

I can't see the video (Great Firewall and all), I assume she's hot, but that doesn't mitigate the fact that any man who walks into that situation has to do so knowing two things; first that the kid will never call him dad and his genetic legacy has not passed and second, that in her life, he will always be, at best, the second-most important thing to her.

...and yet the show is not-so-subtly saying that this is all a good thing. It's the next evolution of 'Man up!', Man up! get a better job, Man up! get married...Man up! raise another man's children.


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