I'm 42, had been with my ex wife for 14 years and got separated 8 months ago and divorced 5 months ago. For anyone going through this I want to tell you that there is light at the end of the tunnel. But it is really important to have a have a positive attitude.
Since my separation I have...
-Traveled to 6 foreign countries.
-Gone on a Sunday morning date that led to sex in less than 2 hours.
-Taken ecstasy with two 22 year old 7s. We caressed, touched and cuddled all night with about 2 hours in the hot tub. I didn't go for sex but it still ranks as one of the best nights of my life.
-This led to fucking one of their friends (another 7) on her 21st birthday.
-Done anal.
- Fucked a German 8 in a hostel within 2 hours of meeting.
-Swapped women in my wing man's hot tub.
-Fucked a women with augmented breasts.
-Had a hot woman beg me to cum on her face. I obliged.
-Fucked 6 new women in less than 60 days (all at least 6s)
-More than doubled my total.
-Managed to maintain a positive relationship with my ex-wife.
Having said that, I have also had some really low lows. There have been times where I missed my house, missed my old life and even missed my ex-wife even though I know our relationship was unhealthy. I have also been heartbroken and lonely, so lonely I have cried.
So yes, there are ups and downs but I want to echo what others have said. Stay positive and realize that your self worth has nothing to do with what any particular woman thinks of you. There are some things that I think have helped me through this process..
- I've kept myself looking and feeling the best I can. I exercise, I eat healthy, I meditate, I do stuff I love to do (surf, hike and travel).
- I have the best wing man on earth. He is an experienced player and extremely compassionate. I cannot emphasize enough how much his tough love has helped me through my lowest lows. It also helps that his long term relationship ended about the same time as mine.
-I have kept the masturbation and porn to a minimum. There have been times that I have spent hours watching porn but made sure I didn't cum. That is good for my game. On the other hand, when I let myself cum to porn, it kills my game.
-I go out and approach all the time but keep the drinking to a minimum (1-2 drinks on week days and up to 5 drinks over a long period of time on weekends).
-My game was really lacking 8 months ago but I have worked on improving it everyday. It's getting passable now.
-Except for doing ecstasy twice with women and a pot binge in Amsterdam, I have stayed away from drugs.
-I negotiated a settlement with my ex-wife instead of dragging things out in court. In order to make this happen, I had to sacrifice certain things like my half of the house (I got paid for it) and the nicer car. At certain times I also had to patiently listen to a bunch of bitching (if you were married you are used to this). But, I kept my pension, have a down payment for another house and didn't sacrifice years of my life on legal battles.
-Finally, I have a strict rule that I will not commit to any one women. This has lost me some lays and led to the heartbreak described above but I think it is a really important (possibly temporary) rule to follow when leaving a long term relationship.
I hope this helps people going through the process. Its not easy but stay positive and good things can come out of it.
Since my separation I have...
-Traveled to 6 foreign countries.
-Gone on a Sunday morning date that led to sex in less than 2 hours.
-Taken ecstasy with two 22 year old 7s. We caressed, touched and cuddled all night with about 2 hours in the hot tub. I didn't go for sex but it still ranks as one of the best nights of my life.
-This led to fucking one of their friends (another 7) on her 21st birthday.
-Done anal.
- Fucked a German 8 in a hostel within 2 hours of meeting.
-Swapped women in my wing man's hot tub.
-Fucked a women with augmented breasts.
-Had a hot woman beg me to cum on her face. I obliged.
-Fucked 6 new women in less than 60 days (all at least 6s)
-More than doubled my total.
-Managed to maintain a positive relationship with my ex-wife.
Having said that, I have also had some really low lows. There have been times where I missed my house, missed my old life and even missed my ex-wife even though I know our relationship was unhealthy. I have also been heartbroken and lonely, so lonely I have cried.
So yes, there are ups and downs but I want to echo what others have said. Stay positive and realize that your self worth has nothing to do with what any particular woman thinks of you. There are some things that I think have helped me through this process..
- I've kept myself looking and feeling the best I can. I exercise, I eat healthy, I meditate, I do stuff I love to do (surf, hike and travel).
- I have the best wing man on earth. He is an experienced player and extremely compassionate. I cannot emphasize enough how much his tough love has helped me through my lowest lows. It also helps that his long term relationship ended about the same time as mine.
-I have kept the masturbation and porn to a minimum. There have been times that I have spent hours watching porn but made sure I didn't cum. That is good for my game. On the other hand, when I let myself cum to porn, it kills my game.
-I go out and approach all the time but keep the drinking to a minimum (1-2 drinks on week days and up to 5 drinks over a long period of time on weekends).
-My game was really lacking 8 months ago but I have worked on improving it everyday. It's getting passable now.
-Except for doing ecstasy twice with women and a pot binge in Amsterdam, I have stayed away from drugs.
-I negotiated a settlement with my ex-wife instead of dragging things out in court. In order to make this happen, I had to sacrifice certain things like my half of the house (I got paid for it) and the nicer car. At certain times I also had to patiently listen to a bunch of bitching (if you were married you are used to this). But, I kept my pension, have a down payment for another house and didn't sacrifice years of my life on legal battles.
-Finally, I have a strict rule that I will not commit to any one women. This has lost me some lays and led to the heartbreak described above but I think it is a really important (possibly temporary) rule to follow when leaving a long term relationship.
I hope this helps people going through the process. Its not easy but stay positive and good things can come out of it.