Quote: (11-04-2014 12:13 AM)Sebastian Wrote:
She is very attractive for her age. I bet she gets plenty of interests from men around her age.
She is just upset 'that special guy' she wants, is not either interested in her or won't settle with her.
If she is willing to bend over somewhat, she should be happily married just like her 'normal' friends.
Remind me of a conversation with 44 year old lady. She said she gets RIDICULOUS amount of emails from match.
It was a lot of Work juggling several guys at a time for her. She told me she was upset because of those guys wanted just to sleep with her and she felt used. I am sure there are guys who would get into relationship with her but she is not interested in those.
I say women are like Flowers. Some are cheap and some are high priced.
This special rose is priced at $10 each and no one is buying. Is it wise to lower the price a bit to get rid of it or insist on charging the same amount and let it rot?
After all, it's her choice how to price herself. 'I rather live alone and keep high standards'. I totally respect that.
But I don't want to hear why the market is not Paying Attention to her.
'You don't fight with the market'
Mike Rowe laid this out within a reply to a letter he got from a fan.
I had drinks last night with a woman I know. Let’s call her Claire. Claire just turned 42. She’s cute, smart, and successful. She’s frustrated though, because she can’t find a man. I listened all evening about how difficult her search has been. About how all the “good ones” were taken. About how her other friends had found their soul-mates, and how it wasn’t fair that she had not.
“Look at me,” she said. “I take care of myself. I’ve put myself out there. Why is this so hard?”
“How about that guy at the end of the bar,” I said. “He keeps looking at you.”
“Not my type.”
“Really? How do you know?”
“I just know.”
“Have you tried a dating site?” I asked.”
“Are you kidding? I would never date someone I met online!”
“Alright. How about a change of scene? Your company has offices all over – maybe try living in another city?”
“What? Leave San Francisco? Never!”
“How about the other side of town? You know, mix it up a little. Visit different places. New museums, new bars, new theaters…?”
She looked at me like I had two heads. “Why the hell would I do that?”
Here’s the thing, Parker. Claire doesn’t really want a man. She wants the “right” man. She wants a soul-mate. Specifically, a soul-mate from her zip code. She assembled this guy in her mind years ago, and now, dammit, she’s tired of waiting!!
I didn’t tell her this, because Claire has the capacity for sudden violence. But it’s true. She complains about being alone, even though her rules have more or less guaranteed she’ll stay that way. She has built a wall between herself and her goal. A wall made of conditions and expectations. Is it possible that you’ve built a similar wall?
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Now the woman may not even be real, but the situation he describes most definitely is, particularly in the Western world. Whether it is Wall St., the dating scene, or any other aspect of life, the market is always right. Ignore this fact at your peril, ladies.