Quote: (09-06-2014 10:09 AM)The Lizard of Oz Wrote:
The main thing to achieve before you're 30 is not any particular positive accomplishment. The main thing is to avoid fucking your life over in some irreversible way by the time you reach 30.
That means:
-- Don't be a drunk or a junkie by 30
-- Don't be married to a fucking worthless bitch that you already hate but are stuck with (because of kids and/or property)
-- Don't get serious injuries from bad or careless athletic activities that will give you chronic pain you can't get rid of
-- Don't get into financial debt that is so deep that it will hang over you for decades
That's really about it. Your whole life is ahead of you at 30, and you're hopefully smarter and more capable of enjoying it than before. It doesn't matter so much what you've "achieved" as long as you haven't done anything so dumb that you'll be paying for it for the rest of your life.
If you've avoided all these things, consider yourself a lucky man, count your blessings, and look forward with relish to the years ahead and to what life has to offer.
Lizard makes a very good point here. Sometimes in life, it's just as important what NOT to do, as it is to know what affirmatively to do.
There was a time when a man could recover from almost anything bad that he did in his 20s. But the world today is more competitive than it was 30 years ago. Some things will follow you forever, and this is why it's so critical for young men to be getting guidance.
I never felt like I had any mentors, role models, or any older guy who gave a shit about me. I also never had a younger brother. I feel like I want to help out other guys, so they don't make the same mistakes that I did.
That's why I like being here and doing manosphere stuff. I want to try to offer suggestions in a no-nonsense, non-dickish way.