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(01-30-2014 03:26 AM)bacon Wrote:  

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Do people really think that a stay at home mom is really on equal footing with a woman who works

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We have baby showers and wedding parties as if it’s a huge accomplishment and cause for celebration to be able to get knocked up or find someone to walk down the aisle with. These aren’t accomplishments.

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I want to have a shower for a woman when she backpacks on her own through Asia, gets a promotion, or lands a dream job not when she stays inside the box and does the house and kids thing which is the path of least resistance.

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Women will be equal with men when we stop demanding that it be considered equally important to do housework and real work. They are not equal. Doing laundry will never be as important as being a doctor or an engineer or building a business.

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The idea of a woman being happy with a husband and kids and the fact that lifestyle could be an ideal lifestyle for women is problematic for other women who are too old/used to have a chance finding a husband and having kids. Or are too fat/homely to find a suitable partner so their cognitive dissonance kicks in and they must ramp up their beliefs about happiness via career and go so far as to attack women who decide to go another way by having kids and a husband.

The maternal instinct and the drive to procreate before a womans eggs are used up is a powerful biological force. This author, as feminism often does, is trying to omit biology and assume men and women are opperating on a level playing field with ideals about work, marriage and having kids.

To illustrate the biological difference futher with respect to having children consider results from a study of 5000 people of all ages in Britain by Open University measuring happiness and children. The study found:

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Yet, when asked to rate how happy they were with their lives in general there was a gender divide. Mothers were happier overall than any other group, while childless women were the least happy. By contrast men with children emerged slightly less happy than those without.

These results are important because very little studies have actually looked into happiness and children but the results are daming for women who believe career is something they should put over having a family no less ridicule other women for making that natural lifestyle decision.

"You will never have the time, energy, freedom or mobility to be exceptional if you have a husband and kids."

The views in this article represent the typical view of working "professional" women in San Francisco. These are not marginal views here.