As far as intelligence torpedoing you, I'm finding it's learning what NOT to do as well-- you don't want to reveal your hyper-sensitivity to tense situations. I think intelligence may co-vary with anxiety
I'm finding when I make a joke and try to deadpan and her expression starts to move towards bafflement, I ruin the sexual tension by cracking up and I can see her attraction crumble as I giggle.
They want some kind of solidity which slower guys have, it actually is strength in a form, strength which I don't have--I know I'd rather be dead than work full time 25 years without a significant break to raise a kid through college and all that.
Someone a little more dull and conformist and less imaginative could tolerate that better than I can. Then the people above me that are true geniuses and maybe can earn enough more than me so they can baby-pay and still have free time.
I'm finding when I make a joke and try to deadpan and her expression starts to move towards bafflement, I ruin the sexual tension by cracking up and I can see her attraction crumble as I giggle.
They want some kind of solidity which slower guys have, it actually is strength in a form, strength which I don't have--I know I'd rather be dead than work full time 25 years without a significant break to raise a kid through college and all that.
Someone a little more dull and conformist and less imaginative could tolerate that better than I can. Then the people above me that are true geniuses and maybe can earn enough more than me so they can baby-pay and still have free time.