Quote: (09-11-2013 08:04 AM)Onto Wrote:
Careful though, not many people can handle quesionting that goes 3 levels deep. Upon the first question you ask they will be annoyed at you for even asking, after the second level they will hate you, after the thrid level they will want to kill you. So when you sense them getting agitated, it's best to back off, though they will usually drop the subject after the 1st or 2nd level anyways.
Most people simply aren't capable of realistically-working through their problems in a rational, logical manner, which is why they have problems to begin with.
They'll react with anger and discomfort if you force them to confront repressed and frustrated desires (Freudian Theory), or anger and discomfort is they become aware their self-perception doesn't match their reality (Cognitive Dissonance Theory, or Hamsterisation).
Realistically, most people don't want answers, or guidance, just simply someone to bitch at. You have every right to not be used as an emotional dumping ground for people who don't want to be actually be helped. They'll suck away energy and drive you could be using on your own tasks. You're not lacking empathy or sympathy, you're simply realising damaged people are damaged beyond your capacity to help.
Fuck them, utterly.