Oh shit ! Great thread
Have been thinking about this lately and though i don't have a definite answer, here is what i think.
On one hand, everyone ... male or female is after resources. There is no such thing as love except the love you have for your family which is unconditional.
Everything else in life is transactional. You love your frat bros ? Nope, you love their companionship , the sense of belonging and the fun they provide. You love your Gf ? No you don't ! You love how she makes you feel. Validated and like a man, maybe fills some emotional void you have. You like your Philosophy Professor ? No you don't brah. You like the value he's offering in Knowledge and perspective.
It is impossible to like or love someone without them providing something of value ( resources) for you so chicks are not any different.
However, here is were hoes are different.
As a man, the only thing a woman can provide for you that you cannot provide for yourself is her punani , her ability to bear children and some kind of companionship if she's cool.
As a result, it is easier for us men to love a woman since the resources we require from them are just the above 3 maximum. A young pretty fertile girl who's cool is more than enough to make most guys " fall in love " with her.
For women, as the weaker sex there are sooooo many things they want from men. Security, Protection , validation , fulfillment of an image, social acceptance, money , status , social circles , sex, carrying her bag, being her emotional rock in times of trouble/desperation, innate desire to be with an alpha male ...... etc you name it.
The guy who provides whatever resource she craves the most at moment gets to smash !
That is why a rich guy who's beta is not going to bang a girl who's most urgent desire is an alpha.
That is why a tall, muscular, Alpha , cad , player who's a biker will not be able to bang an educated East coast woman who's most imminent desire is to impress her friends and fulfill her ideal self image by marrying a guy like Don Draper.
That is why a guy who's a loser mooching of his girl will still keep banging her because she just wants to be fucked at the moment. She's young ambitious, has enough money and does not have time for boyfriends.
Same reason why a 6 foot HBB blonde girl whose most urgent need is to advance her social status and project this image of her being a celebrity will fuck some 5 foot 4 skinny fat D-list reality TV guy.
There are soo many things women want from men. Ideally you have your shit together and can provide most of it. But do it for YOU. Because if you cannot fulfill what a woman wants RIGHT NOW ... you are of no use to her.
That is why it is harder for women to love men. Even when they say " I Love you" all they are doing is tapping into that fantasy of being in love.
What women want is an abstract concept and can't be broken down that easily.
But this is what i've realized so far.
Have been thinking about this lately and though i don't have a definite answer, here is what i think.
On one hand, everyone ... male or female is after resources. There is no such thing as love except the love you have for your family which is unconditional.
Everything else in life is transactional. You love your frat bros ? Nope, you love their companionship , the sense of belonging and the fun they provide. You love your Gf ? No you don't ! You love how she makes you feel. Validated and like a man, maybe fills some emotional void you have. You like your Philosophy Professor ? No you don't brah. You like the value he's offering in Knowledge and perspective.
It is impossible to like or love someone without them providing something of value ( resources) for you so chicks are not any different.
However, here is were hoes are different.
As a man, the only thing a woman can provide for you that you cannot provide for yourself is her punani , her ability to bear children and some kind of companionship if she's cool.
As a result, it is easier for us men to love a woman since the resources we require from them are just the above 3 maximum. A young pretty fertile girl who's cool is more than enough to make most guys " fall in love " with her.
For women, as the weaker sex there are sooooo many things they want from men. Security, Protection , validation , fulfillment of an image, social acceptance, money , status , social circles , sex, carrying her bag, being her emotional rock in times of trouble/desperation, innate desire to be with an alpha male ...... etc you name it.
The guy who provides whatever resource she craves the most at moment gets to smash !
That is why a rich guy who's beta is not going to bang a girl who's most urgent desire is an alpha.
That is why a tall, muscular, Alpha , cad , player who's a biker will not be able to bang an educated East coast woman who's most imminent desire is to impress her friends and fulfill her ideal self image by marrying a guy like Don Draper.
That is why a guy who's a loser mooching of his girl will still keep banging her because she just wants to be fucked at the moment. She's young ambitious, has enough money and does not have time for boyfriends.
Same reason why a 6 foot HBB blonde girl whose most urgent need is to advance her social status and project this image of her being a celebrity will fuck some 5 foot 4 skinny fat D-list reality TV guy.
There are soo many things women want from men. Ideally you have your shit together and can provide most of it. But do it for YOU. Because if you cannot fulfill what a woman wants RIGHT NOW ... you are of no use to her.
That is why it is harder for women to love men. Even when they say " I Love you" all they are doing is tapping into that fantasy of being in love.
What women want is an abstract concept and can't be broken down that easily.
But this is what i've realized so far.