in that chill/mundane place like bar/cafe next to her place you gotta be the shiny object aka the main attraction. it requires more from you like decent conversation skills, leading frame, creativity, social stamina, self amusement, etc.
whereas on activity based dates [WIA mentioned] you can do much less and keep the girl in fun mode/emotional state which helps escalating.
pick your niche
whereas on activity based dates [WIA mentioned] you can do much less and keep the girl in fun mode/emotional state which helps escalating.
pick your niche