There are also gay dudes who are gruff and manly as fuck. They are called bears. I remember watching Kevin Smith's Too Fat For 40 and he's talking about his gay friend Malcolm who is fatter and hairier than he is.
Just like there are butch and masculine women who are straight, there are effeminate men who are straight.
IMHO the base, animalistic, sexual urge to have sex with another man is determined by genetics and is biological.
But the behaviors associated with homosexuality (being flamboyant and having feminine characteristics) are influenced by one's environment.
To conflate the act of gay sex and effeminite behavior is easy to do, but the presence of one does not necessarily mean the presence of another
Just my humble opinion.
Edit: GAYm forum
Just like there are butch and masculine women who are straight, there are effeminate men who are straight.
IMHO the base, animalistic, sexual urge to have sex with another man is determined by genetics and is biological.
But the behaviors associated with homosexuality (being flamboyant and having feminine characteristics) are influenced by one's environment.
To conflate the act of gay sex and effeminite behavior is easy to do, but the presence of one does not necessarily mean the presence of another
Just my humble opinion.
Edit: GAYm forum