Quote: (04-13-2010 08:28 PM)gringoed Wrote:
And whatever you do don't get her pregnant
*shutter*
Ugh. Word.
I think the only benefit to NOT having a girlfriend, and being a player, is that you can bang chicks that you don't click with that well and not have to have any more commitment. That is, players can better avoid relationships with girls they don't like. Whereas chodes tend to have the compulsion settle with girls because they desire easier access to sex.
But if you really like a girl, then there is little disadvantage to not at least being in a relationship for a little bit. There are a lot of benefits, in terms of lifestyle and overall fulfillment, to being in a relationship with a quality girl that you like. If you like her, and she's hot, you wills still go through bored spells but will be less likely to cheat on her. This is because its generally hard to find a true girlfriend worthy girl. When you do, if you have some game to begin with, it should be hard to find a girl who can compare. That is, the average bar bunny or club slut won't have anything on a players girlfriend.
The only danger is when she starts to want things that you don't: like an engagement. But the relationship is still worthwhile, even if it doesn't work out in the long term, imo.
BTW, there is nothing wrong with saying the L word after a while, if its true. Loving people is a gift to them and the world, and even if your only in there life for a little bit, conveying love to them will greatly enhance their life and probably yours. That doesn't mean that they own you or you own them, or that you can't leave her. Its just free love. Give it without expectation or need of it being returned. If you do that, it likely will be returned. Personally, I'd rather leave this world having broken many hearts then never having gotten truly close with anyone, by fault of never having expressed love as an adult. Just my opinion.
Just make sure you are expressing it after you are close with her, and not prematurely in the relationship, to avoid it uncomfortably not being reciprocated. 5-6 months tends to be a good benchmark, for that expression, in a healthy relationship. And don't tell her, for the first time, as you plow her. Girls generally don't trust that.