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April 19, 2014
Women today - Angela Adánez
• Continue past the 40 single can be a blessing or torture, depending on the interests and desires of each woman. Several readers who share this civil state facing tell us how to be "singles".

Surprised to see great, independent, full of humor and intelligence, however, fail to provide women with a steady partner sociological explanation comforts us, and surely there is some truth in this diagnosis. Gender roles have changed even invented are in regards to the couple.

Now women are financially independent and enjoy the same social and sexual freedom as men. They no longer serve the rules of the past: they no longer take the first step and wait until we decide we certainly never had more opportunities to give to the soul mate. Sites, cruises, travel agencies for "singles". But do not forget that singleness is also an option.

Studies show that the happiness index of single and paired is similar: 60% in both cases, according to a report by IPSOS Agency in 15 countries, including Spain. The figures show also that each year the number of odd. According to the INE, there are over 15 million singles over 20 years, a number that grows by about 7% each year. And according to the website Meetic relationships, there are more single women (51%) than men (49%). But there is no difference when it comes to dating.

Some 20,000 people are enlisted in us every week looking for new people to meet. More than one third want a long term relationship, but likewise conforms to find someone to have fun and have a good time. Only 7% aims to marry. However, many women are wondering why can not find a partner. By tradition or education, unmarried depressions around 40 are relatively frequent. Crisis Are all these fears have to do with a real need to be paired or hide other vulnerabilities? Several readers tell us their experience.

The first obstacle to our desires tend to be ourselves

● The idea that we are too demanding is absurd. Do we not have the right to choose who we like because we really too long without a partner? Fortunately we try to find the right person and not throw to first come. That means we have respect for ourselves and good emotional health.

● A different thing is the unrealistic expectations: that our happiness depends 100% of our couples, we hope to heal our wounds, to fill us in everything we need and want. This indicates an emotional and psychological problem which needs addressing. Maybe it's the symptom of a vacuum that is not filled with anything and whose origin is elsewhere: a childhood of neglect, a cold parents, a sickly insecurity due to lack of affection or very early traumatic experiences ... No couple can fill that void procedure.

● Sometimes there is a real fear of commitment, because that means choosing, waive, settle for the real and sideline childhood dreams. There may also be an unconscious to stop being free and independent, to fear failing in the attempt.

● The couple who took our parents is a mirror in which we look: perhaps supposed fantasy of a success that we can not meet or maybe we're terrified that supposed to repeat the failure.

● Should we then go to a psychologist to find love? Of course not. Or not always. Sometimes you just get yourself the right questions: do you really want a pair at the moment? I'm scared to face a real man? Do I want a companion or just "no" to be alone?

● We have instilled the idea that there is life outside of the relationship, that's the ultimate achievement. But the essential thing is to choose freely, respected and loving oneself.
"You may be afraid to commit to a long term relationship", Julia S., 39, a journalist.
"The truth is I do not know why I'm single. At first, I had long couples: I went for a year with a Brazilian guy, four with a German boyfriend, three with a guy I met in England ... But from the time I turned 30, I had no real relationships. It came and went, I changed jobs four times in four years. Had too much to fix. Time passes and it seems to have done nothing with your life except run.

Two years ago I started psychotherapy, and now I feel better, more rooted. However, the range of men has decreased. Most I know are separated or divorced and many are back. Already have children and do not want more problems. At times packed and they promise you the moon, but then nothing. I do not understand. Maybe afraid to commit to a girl like me, who wants a long term relationship and have children. Or, maybe, I'm the one that is released too quickly.

My last relationship ended two weeks ago. He said he wanted to spend his life with me. But suddenly, he sent me an SMS saying that he preferred to be friends. Without warning, without notice. Even we agreed that we saw to speak openly. I thought a coward. Fortunately, I am very busy now, but still open to new encounters. "

"When I meet someone I like, I get panic to failure", Elizabeth J., 46, directors of a multinational, divorced with a child 10 years

"It has always seemed to me that the couple is ideal. With my husband had a ratio of fusion, although I now realize that only lived through it. After the divorce, after 15 years of marriage, loneliness caused me much suffering. He felt no longer good for anything. Two years later I had another relationship, and went to experience infatuation, dependency and rupture. Today I feel very accomplished being single allows me to know myself. Some self-help reading and journal writing have given me the opportunity to clarify my emotions and see this state as a form of freedom. I do not need someone else to be, but I still feel weak. As I know someone who attracts me, I turn to panic to fail. "

"I dread to end up alone," Lily L., 47, shopping at an advertising company, separate and mother of three

"Three years I'm single again and I've only had flings ago. It's something that wears me out. As the relationship begins to get serious, they put their heels. I've been very bad and spend nights fi nes week with nothing to do and no one when my kids are with their father.'ve Never lived alone. I met my first husband at 15, and the second, a year after the first divorce. Latter relationship was a disaster. My "ex" was a narcissist who liked to humiliate me all the time.

After parting, I felt so insecure, ugly and older than I jumped on the first appeared. Upsets me the idea to finish alone in life. I have that ingrained fear that surely shows through in my personality. But I am better today than when I was young: at least respect me, I know what I want and I'm not willing to compromise any cost. "

"They say I'm idealistic, but I believe in the great love stories", Alexandra Z., 51, graphic designer

"My friends say I'm too idealistic, but I still believe in the great love stories. I have had many partners since age 20, but never came to anything. Until age 30, I think I avoided which would express. Basically, I was afraid to commit. For six years, I was a married man, until I realized that would never break with his wife. It took a lot get over that story. My last relationship lasted two years. It was he who cut and then I knew I was with a younger woman. Maybe needed to overcome its own crisis of 50. I keep hoping, but not actively looking. I go, I meet people, but I close when a man tries to flirt with me. Surely I fear that will not work, I find it hard to trust again. "

"I'm tired of weak men", Cecilia F., 43, nurse

"As I get older, with maturity and experience, I realize that when I was young, thought much about stupid things. For example, once I strove to break a couple that worked well because We came from different social classes. He made mistakes in speaking, something that irritated me deeply, as his extreme kindness, that I found it cloying and today, however, I appreciate very much. Since then, I have omitted many of the qualities he considered "essential" in the ideal man.

Between 30 and 40 I've had my share of jaded divorced and "rolleros" seeking freedom. Fortunately, I like my life, work in something that I love, I have free time, I travel and I love music. For a long time the maiden was always my group of friends. But with the crisis of 40, has produced an avalanche of separations and divorces.

I'm introverted, and maybe that intimidates people. Or maybe I expect too much, I have a head full of tall tales, because I still think that to be with someone for real, you have to feel butterflies in my stomach from the start , but I've accepted that it's not bad to have, from time to time, "unserious" relationships; is healthy self-esteem. do not know, maybe I'm a difficult person. I need to feel attracted to a man, but also that person to fight for me. I'm tired of weak men. And, yes, I'm afraid to end up alone, but I trust in the future. "

Leer más: I am attractive, smart, funny ... but why can not I find a couple? - Mujerhoy.com -

http://www.mujerhoy.com/psico-sexo/vivir...42014.html

I don't know if its just me or if my opinion will change later on in life, but 11 times out of 10 I am gonna choose a younger girl over a older woman. The only girl I was ever with that was older then me was 22 and thats when I was 19. The oldest girl I have ever been with is 27 and I have been dating her off and on for the last 10 years.

Someone has a signature on here that goes something like "A beautiful 38 year old is not as hot as a ugly 19 year old" and I feel so much truth in that.

When my time has come and I can no longer pull 20something year olds..... Well thats when I will retire to the Philippines and die old and lonely banging 18 year olds.

From the comments:

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They said in the comics Spiderman's famous phrase "with great power comes great responsibility". Women have been given the power to do whatever they wanted with their bodies and lives, and even greater power and never seen before (as much in some kings and emperors) to imprison someone for their word alone, without need some proof or further proceedings. We are already seeing how they are managing that power.

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I do not know what you complain if they already have what they were asking from
60 : total sexual freedom, freedom to divorce , to abortion, and
to rebuild their lives many times wanted. Is not that what you wanted ?



Perhaps they did not expect is that all actions have their
consequences . Do not want to take responsibly the hardest part of their
decisions . His claims have destroyed the male figure and paternal
until it disappears from society, family and marriage. but
is it not what they wanted, "we decided we parimos "
" Because I 'm worth it " [ ... ] That's what women wear
suing decades. Well there you have it . As they asked .



As much as despite their freedom to destroy the family
and marriage does not imply a successive male attraction, do not expect the
heterosexual European male will continue to haunt women under the balcony
every night , despite the abuse, contempt , and all
consequences of what they call liberation of women .



After decades of harassment of the male figure million
men refuse to establish the relationships of yesteryear and have undertaken the
way also of autonomy , independence . There comes a time when
even the good and committed man is tired of playing to lose.



Today very few men in their right mind would accept a
marriage contract riddled with unfair terms such as loss
assets , loss of child custody , a woman can abort
your child without even a say , or the numerous false complaints
GBV. Accept these risks in a no additional consideration
is simply suicidal.



Also the probability of reaching that status
term commitment is increasingly remote . Hypergamy of women is so
higher than they are able to reject 70-80 % of men under any
stupid excuse. Men who would have previously established stable commitments ,
now they are discarded for not coming to the demands of women
"liberated " . Therefore man must make even greater efforts to
reach a stable single commitment.



Let's face it , men are tired of striving
infinitely more than ever, and above
risk more than ever. Most relationships take you to
disaster, and are tired of always being the part that invests and which
more lost. Logically and no man is going to commit .



Returning to the first words ; women wanted
sexual freedom, freedom to divorce , to abortion, to do whatever
wanted. You have it all. In the game of relationships women impose
all rules for playing . What is not expected is that men no longer
want to play. Currently no state , no society , no one can force
men to play in a game where they will always lose. Do not play
lost.



While there is no real relationships based on commitment and
forever, where the value of the male part is recognized, where
respect to children, where man can actually find their place . the
man will not play. Not playing is not lost.

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Good afternoon ,

As a man I would give my opinion on the above here in summary mode and quoting parts to make it easy to understand and concise .

"Sexy , smart, funny ... I am , but why can not I find a couple ? "

And modest ? You look like you because I have high regard and have behind many " pagafantas " ( who only want you for what you complain, but at the same time to believe is progress , sexual freedom ) but although " ye grandmother " does not mean that you may be so, or you see the rest as well .


" The idea that we are too demanding is absurd. Did not have the right to choose who we like because we really too long partner? Fortunately tried to find the right person and not throw to first come . This means that we have respect for ourselves and good emotional health.
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On the one hand , everyone can order what you want, but is not very smart complain then you ask X things , but perhaps the men who seek together possess qualities that no dais or size . On the other hand , I see I see a contradiction in " trying to find the right person and not throw the first comer ," you try you find the right person , and not throw the first to arrive , but if you sleep with him, and with another and another and another and another .... prince Charming while you wait , and when that prince appears, may account for the princess looking for a prince with high expectations, but to sleep with her with minimal enough.

" You may be afraid to commit to a long term relationship "

Han Solo is my pastorHace 5 days


I do not know what you complain if they already have what they were asking from
60 : total sexual freedom, freedom to divorce , to abortion, and
to rebuild their lives many times wanted. Is not that what you wanted ?



Perhaps they did not expect is that all actions have their
consequences . Do not want to take responsibly the hardest part of their
decisions . His claims have destroyed the male figure and paternal
until it disappears from society, family and marriage. but
is it not what they wanted, "we decided we parimos "
" Because I 'm worth it " [ ... ] That's what women wear
suing decades. Well there you have it . As they asked .



As much as despite their freedom to destroy the family
and marriage does not imply a successive male attraction, do not expect the
heterosexual European male will continue to haunt women under the balcony
every night , despite the abuse, contempt , and all
consequences of what they call liberation of women .



After decades of harassment of the male figure million
men refuse to establish the relationships of yesteryear and have undertaken the
way also of autonomy , independence . There comes a time when
even the good and committed man is tired of playing to lose.



Today very few men in their right mind would accept a
marriage contract riddled with unfair terms such as loss
assets , loss of child custody , a woman can abort
your child without even a say , or the numerous false complaints
GBV. Accept these risks in a no additional consideration
is simply suicidal.



Also the probability of reaching that status
term commitment is increasingly remote . Hypergamy of women is so
higher than they are able to reject 70-80 % of men under any
stupid excuse. Men who would have previously established stable commitments ,
now they are discarded for not coming to the demands of women
"liberated " . Therefore man must make even greater efforts to
reach a stable single commitment.



Let's face it , men are tired of striving
infinitely more than ever, and above
risk more than ever. Most relationships take you to
disaster, and are tired of always being the part that invests and which
more lost. Logically and no man is going to commit .



Returning to the first words ; women wanted
sexual freedom, freedom to divorce , to abortion, to do whatever
wanted. You have it all. In the game of relationships women impose
all rules for playing . What is not expected is that men no longer
want to play. Currently no state , no society , no one can force
men to play in a game where they will always lose. Do not play
lost.



While there is no real relationships based on commitment and
forever, where the value of the male part is recognized, where
respect to children, where man can actually find their place . the
man will not play. Not playing is not lost.

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I'm attractive, smart, funny... (and 40). Why can't I find a husband?

The equivalent would be if a man said "I'm young, cute, and have a sweet, submissive personality. Why don't hot chicks want to bang me?"

Contemporary women are so narcissistic and self-involved that they think men must look for the same things in them that they look for in men. In reality, of course, the exact opposite is generally true.

Women like tall men. Men like short women (at least shorter than themselves.) Women find confidence, experience and strength attractive. Men find vulnerability, gentleness and innocence attractive. With almost any characteristic, the opposite is attractive for men and women.

"Smart" and "funny" are qualities that are attractive in men, not women. This isn't to say we want women who are dumb and humorless. However, most contemporary women who describe themselves with those words are really neither. Bitchy, unpleasant and argumentative would be more accurate. "Smart" typically means memorized a lot of crap to regurgitate and supposedly impress people and "funny" means makes snarky comments.

Even genuine intelligence and humor (past a certain baseline) isn't all that important for long-term relationships and marriage. Traditional feminine characteristics, such as kindness, submissiveness, pleasant attitude, taking care of appearance, are higher on a man's priorities list.

Reminds me of this article.
http://www.dailymail.co.uk/femail/articl...e-age.html

The lonely legacy of my Sex And The City lifestyle: Claudia Connell gives a painfully honest account of how she came to be living alone in middle-age

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At the age of 46, I accept that my opportunity to have a family has gone and the chances of meeting a decent man aren’t looking too rosy either.

Not exactly a cheery thought, but at least I can console myself with the knowledge that, in one sense at least, I will be far from alone — because today, in the UK, there are record numbers of us middle-aged singletons. Figures released last week by the Office of National Statistics showed that there are now 7.6 million people living alone in the UK.

And the fastest rising group of ‘aloners’ — 2.5 million — are people like me, who fall between the ages of 45 and 64 and live alone in our own properties with no spouse, partner or children.

Nice arms.

A 60 year old guy might wife her up.

But of course that wouldn't make her happy either.

Reap what you have sown ladies.

In Hamsterize:

- had many easy relationships in their 20s with exciting men - likely Alphas
- After 30 failed to lower expectations and were still Alpha hunting
- Even now expectations are similar to when they were 25 - they still want at age 43 a man who is 45 and successful
- they describe a 50-year-old man as immature and in mid-life crisis because he wants a 28-year-old. When she was 28 she likely had no problem fucking such a guy with means.
- some concede that they now want a kind and loving guy, while they despised such a man in their 20s (more Beta)
- they all fail to lower expectations and look for fit 60-year-old guys or older for a last-term relationship

Many more of those middle-age spinsters to come - the hookup-culture-Teens of Today will be the aging single moms / spinsters of tomorrow - but there will be SOOOO MANY MORE OF THEM!

If she would change "husband" to young stud and it was for 1 night, I would supply that want (or in her case need?).

Quote: (04-26-2014 03:09 PM)Zelcorpion Wrote:  

In Hamsterize:

- had many easy relationships in their 20s with exciting men - likely Alphas
- After 30 failed to lower expectations and were still Alpha hunting
- Even now expectations are similar to when they were 25 - they still want at age 43 a man who is 45 and successful
- they describe a 50-year-old man as immature and in mid-life crisis because he wants a 28-year-old. When she was 28 she likely had no problem fucking such a guy with means.
- some concede that they now want a kind and loving guy, while they despised such a man in their 20s (more Beta)
- they all fail to lower expectations and look for fit 60-year-old guys or older for a last-term relationship

Many more of those middle-age spinsters to come - the hookup-culture-Teens of Today will be the aging single moms / spinsters of tomorrow - but there will be SOOOO MANY MORE OF THEM!

And I as a 22 year old male wouldnt have it any other way. Easy sex from gorgeous girls 17-24 for at least the next fifteen years and then I can move to 25-30 year olds for 15 more. Thank you feminism

Quote: (04-26-2014 03:57 PM)BiggNastee Wrote:  

Quote: (04-26-2014 03:09 PM)Zelcorpion Wrote:  

In Hamsterize:

- had many easy relationships in their 20s with exciting men - likely Alphas
- After 30 failed to lower expectations and were still Alpha hunting
- Even now expectations are similar to when they were 25 - they still want at age 43 a man who is 45 and successful
- they describe a 50-year-old man as immature and in mid-life crisis because he wants a 28-year-old. When she was 28 she likely had no problem fucking such a guy with means.
- some concede that they now want a kind and loving guy, while they despised such a man in their 20s (more Beta)
- they all fail to lower expectations and look for fit 60-year-old guys or older for a last-term relationship

Many more of those middle-age spinsters to come - the hookup-culture-Teens of Today will be the aging single moms / spinsters of tomorrow - but there will be SOOOO MANY MORE OF THEM!

And I as a 22 year old male wouldnt have it any other way. Easy sex from gorgeous girls 17-24 for at least the next fifteen years and then I can move to 25-30 year olds for 15 more. Thank you feminism

More like Easy sex from gorgeous girls 17-24 for at least the next 40-50 years depending on how I take care of myself and grow my bankroll.

Quote: (04-26-2014 04:06 PM)CJ_W Wrote:  

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More like Easy sex from gorgeous girls 17-24 for at least the next 40-50 years depending on how I take care of myself and grow my bankroll.

I like that. The only "winners" are Alpha men who have excellent Game and are in excellent shape. Lots of fucking, but no bucking.

Engrish. My head hurts trying to grok it

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who wants a long term relationship and have children.

Im surprised women think they can still start a family at 40. Since getting married is largely about starting a family what good is this barren woman to men wanting a wife to produce offspring?

^ Yeah, I'm shocked by how many "smart and educated" women seem to be ignorant of how short the female fertility window is. I'm not sure whether this has more to with their child-like habit of ignoring or screeching-down anything they don't like or that it's a conscious propaganda campaign by the feminist academic-industrial complex to make sure all those college girls devote their lives fully to being an office drone and maximizing debt/consumer spending.

If they can be distracted them from their biological imperative for just a decade or two, then it's already too late and they have nothing left to do but vote for more government and throw their paychecks right back into the economy on cupcakes and cat food. Instead of realizing that feminism tricked them to squash down their own instincts and commit to an unnatural and miserable life path, they'll just double-down on their bitterness and delusion and claim that the problem wasn't feminism but that, actually, we need even MORE feminism.

Damn, that bitch with the fat arms disgusts me.

I hate when I go to a restaurant or anywhere and see women like that. They put me in a foul mood. And the funny thing is -- she thinks she's hot.

Quote: (04-26-2014 10:02 PM)darklightdispatch Wrote:  

Instead of realizing that feminism tricked them to squash down their own instincts and commit to an unnatural and miserable life path, they'll just double-down on their bitterness and delusion and claim that the problem wasn't feminism but that, actually, we need even MORE feminism.

In the short term, we're definitely going to see more "doubling-down" on bad behavior from women. They still think that fixing things like the gender wage gap and appointing more female CEOs will somehow increase their personal happiness. In their personal lives, they think they earning more money, getting advanced degrees, and being "more confident" at 40 than they were at 30 will make men more attracted to them. Then we have the clueless younger generation of women addicted to their smartphones and Adderall, who are just getting fucked up and taking random dicks. They will probably foolishly expect some guy to marry them in 10 or 15 years. [queue Vincent Price laugh]






It should've been obvious to women living in the big American cities and trying those ideas out in the 80s and 90s that it wouldn't land them husbands or help them start families... but people are slow to change. If you want a fucking husband and a family why are you investing so much into a paper pushing career?






"We are doubling down, Mkay!"

This is just another form of attention whoring.

They do not want a husband. They just like the attention from their whining that they can not find a husband.

http://inciswf.com/hahahah.swf

Quote: (04-26-2014 03:57 PM)BiggNastee Wrote:  

Quote: (04-26-2014 03:09 PM)Zelcorpion Wrote:  

In Hamsterize:

- had many easy relationships in their 20s with exciting men - likely Alphas
- After 30 failed to lower expectations and were still Alpha hunting
- Even now expectations are similar to when they were 25 - they still want at age 43 a man who is 45 and successful
- they describe a 50-year-old man as immature and in mid-life crisis because he wants a 28-year-old. When she was 28 she likely had no problem fucking such a guy with means.
- some concede that they now want a kind and loving guy, while they despised such a man in their 20s (more Beta)
- they all fail to lower expectations and look for fit 60-year-old guys or older for a last-term relationship

Many more of those middle-age spinsters to come - the hookup-culture-Teens of Today will be the aging single moms / spinsters of tomorrow - but there will be SOOOO MANY MORE OF THEM!

And I as a 22 year old male wouldnt have it any other way. Easy sex from gorgeous girls 17-24 for at least the next fifteen years and then I can move to 25-30 year olds for 15 more. Thank you feminism

Now now youngster, remember with great power comes great responsibility.

Quote: (04-26-2014 04:06 PM)CJ_W Wrote:  

Quote: (04-26-2014 03:57 PM)BiggNastee Wrote:  

Quote: (04-26-2014 03:09 PM)Zelcorpion Wrote:  

In Hamsterize:

- had many easy relationships in their 20s with exciting men - likely Alphas
- After 30 failed to lower expectations and were still Alpha hunting
- Even now expectations are similar to when they were 25 - they still want at age 43 a man who is 45 and successful
- they describe a 50-year-old man as immature and in mid-life crisis because he wants a 28-year-old. When she was 28 she likely had no problem fucking such a guy with means.
- some concede that they now want a kind and loving guy, while they despised such a man in their 20s (more Beta)
- they all fail to lower expectations and look for fit 60-year-old guys or older for a last-term relationship

Many more of those middle-age spinsters to come - the hookup-culture-Teens of Today will be the aging single moms / spinsters of tomorrow - but there will be SOOOO MANY MORE OF THEM!

And I as a 22 year old male wouldnt have it any other way. Easy sex from gorgeous girls 17-24 for at least the next fifteen years and then I can move to 25-30 year olds for 15 more. Thank you feminism

More like Easy sex from gorgeous girls 17-24 for at least the next 40-50 years depending on how I take care of myself and grow my bankroll.

Part of their problem is reality. About 90% of single guys at 45+ are meh. Another 8% of decent / good guys with some success are being chased by 100% of the single woman in a similar age bracket. The other 2% of guys with success/ game and overall a good lifestyle aren't going to want to have anything to do with them. So they are stuck, lower their expectations or be single effectively and what do most do...stay single and blame it on men.

Woman win in life until about 30. I'd much rather be a woman from 1-30. But after that men start to win in life. I wouldn't ever want to entertain the idea of being a 40 and single woman. But a 40 and single man! Count me in! Thats the goal!

Quote: (04-27-2014 01:21 AM)Dusty Wrote:  

Winter is coming, my friend

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Not exactly a cheery thought, but at least I can console myself with the knowledge that, in one sense at least, I will be far from alone — because today, in the UK, there are record numbers of us middle-aged singletons. Figures released last week by the Office of National Statistics showed that there are now 7.6 million people living alone in the UK.

I think it should go more like this:

Not exactly a cheery thought, but at least I can console myself with the knowledge that there will be plenty of other crabs in the bucket...